still trying, now separating

[mkultra]

Hi, I think if you do feel that the Sep is inevitable that you do not budge if you are really the one who ride out the storm to save the M in the long run. Do not leave the house and avoid any separation. Yes, it is most likely a path to divorce. Of course it can be a path to your own self discovery etc, but the odds may be stacked against you if you sep. It is not impossible to save your marriage but it could mean two different things to you both. For me, I initiated the sep then regretted it. But looking back now, I see that my H actually did push me into it because of some emotional and verbal abuse,, so i had no choice but to separate. I believe in DR so it is a great resource. Separation may look tempting and I am much happier that he is gone from the house but it will most likely just be an ending to my marriage. A more happy ending would have been the both of us going to Retro and being more open, and of course no affair!!! But I think the Sep to me , meant he would get his act together, get a job, quit drinking, get therapy. To him, it meant , now he can go whore around.