You must've had quite the blast on your pub-crawl (you animal, you!). Glad JS didn't disappoint, and also glad to see you taking things slow in regard to dating him or anyone else. Just make sure you're over H (or at least darn close!) when you get back out there. No dragging old baggage into a new R, right?
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Needless to say some of the stuff I was picking up that day was randomly packed in the basement. No idea what boxes, no labeling. IMO just him being vindictive. Pretty sure he is in the midst of starting a new relationship with someone as all pics of the family have been taken down and replaced with pics of him & D4 only or just D4.
I don't know. I still think that your H is doing these things out of spite and in an attempt to control you and your emotions. A person doesn't just flip the switch like he did IMHO. He has been hurt, and this is how he's dealing with it now. Him putting pictures up of just him and D4 at this point is likely just him trying to get at you emotionally when you come over and see things this way. He could also just be trying to move on by doing it, but I honestly think it's the latter. Your H hasn't grown from this experience, so it is my belief that he is still playing this guilt tripping, vindictive, childish game in hopes of getting a reaction out of you -- and he's hoping one that will bring you groveling back to him ("this isn't what I wanted!" "I'm sorry!" "Please take me back!" etc). I could be way off here, but that's just the feeling I've gotten throughout this whole thing with you and H. I kind of did these things too -- prior to DBing -- so I guess that's what gives me the feeling I'm getting with your H. And btw, when I realized I had only made my sitch worse, I was very upset with myself. That's about the time that I hit rock-bottom and started seeking out resources (like DR and this site) to help me get W back. H could be in the same boat...
