Hey, jak, I did read your posts, and I really hope today will be better for you. I do see a lot of positives in your sitch. And I don't know about you, but when I do go a little dark on him, he seeks me out to find out why. In some ways it's easier, and yet some ways it is so hard to be living in the same house with them, and seeing them so much, but I do thank God we are still living together, because I can be there to let him see how I react to all his buttheadedness (is that a word?), as well as when he is nice, so he can see that I won't go back to being the way he said I was before. Sometimes walking on eggshells isn't an altogether bad thing.
Our sitch seems to have improved somewhat lately. He isn't being nearly as mean as he was, and we are laughing and talking more, and he seems to be wanting to plan things for even the years after our S is out of H.S. He didn't do that before, because he was planning to leave by then. I really think, and shame on me for being a fool if he is being untruthful, that we may be turning a corner on our R. Please write more and tell me how you are doing, and I hope you did get my email this time. L