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The first one may work for some people, if the W is just bluffing.



no, it's not about trying to guess if they are "bluffing".

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Personally, for my W I know that she is a fighter and if I start a fight that's going to be the end.


that's just it. you are NOT starting a fight.
You are essentially saying, "you do what you want to do. if you want to move out, you move out."

You are leaving her free to make her own decisions.
sure, she'll TRY to "start a fight" about it, to try to manipulate you into doing what she wants you to do.

your job is to avoid getting into one about it, and stick to the mantra that she is free to do what she wants. you just wont help her with it
[unspoken to her: she has no right to expect you to help her with it, either]


Last edited by Dom R; 10/22/07 04:07 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle