Now what? Wait it out?

[Tara_9]

Had a weird weekend. First, Friday night I went to my friends' cottage a couple of hours away. As I was leaving, my partner texted to let me know she would be at my nephew's football game. I texted back to say I would be there as well, that it was nice of her to go because it would mean a lot to him, and that I was away. She of course asked where the dogs were, but I didn't text back until the next morning to say they were at my parents and would be there until Saturday afternoon. I never heard back, and when I picked up the dogs I found out she never went by to see them. She had alluded to being away with the OP at the cottage, so I then knew for sure she was away. Subday morning, she texted to say she would drop by to see the dogs at my parents' house on the way to hockey--I told her the message was from Saturday, and that the dogs were back with me. So, she texted to find out if she could come and pick up her stuff. I said I was leaving the house, but I was leaving a garbage bag full of her shoes, boots, and jackets on the front porch, but that the rest of the stuff would only be ready at the end of the week. I had spent almost 2 hours yesterday morning cleaning out the closet and vacuuming pet hair off her stuff I left her on the porch, so thought she'd be happy. Wrong. She had a fit. Started calling and calling...I finally called her back and asked if she'd called. She went off about how I was hanging on to her things and I say I'm not mad, but I'm being passive-aggressive by keeping her things, that she wants to come by and get them....same song and dance. I said that I haven't been mad, but she sure was making me angry right that second. I reiterated that she was not allowed in and she knew why. But she kept having a fit, saying that she had been freezing the week before and had to ask me to collect her jackets for her, and I said that I assumed she would have taken all the articles of clothing that she'd needed when she came and got her clothes weeks ago. She said it had been warm then, and I should have know she'd need them when it got cooler. Then she said she needed our old cordless phone for her shop, since she'd gone over her cell minutes by 130 minutes last month. Then don't call the OP so often!! She said she wanted all her slides/photo albums and was all panicked about them like I was going to throw them away. Before my nephew's game I stopped and got the slides and the phone--I was really upset that she was so angry. She showed up to the game--she even holds herself differently and her voice sounds different. Not in a good way. She looks really pale. Anyway, we joked a bit and watched the game. I tried to keep it not awkward. She did, however, spend much of her time texting (I assume) the OP. She also mentioned that they had also been away in the same area I had been at the cottage. My sister-in-law asked me if I wanted to go to coffee after and I said yes, but noticed that Jen looked like she wanted to come and I felt bad she felt left out, so I asked her to and she said yes. On the way to the car to get her stuff, she said she was going to ask me to go for coffee, but that Joanne beat her to it. When we got to the coffee shop she stayed in her car on the phone, and I was angry because I thought it was with the OP, but when she came in she made a point of saying it was her friend Sue. So we all sat for about 45 minutes and had a decent time. It turned out when she came to pick up her bag from the porch, she peeked through the mail slot and got the dogs all excited. I wondered why one of the dogs had brought his leash to the door. It got their hopes up. My sister-in-law was joking with my partner "why did you do that?" and my partner took it to mean "why did you leave home?" rather than "why did you get the dogs excited by looking through the mail slot. So my partner kind of jokingly said "that's my cue to leave". We looked puzzled and I realized what she thought, and I clarified, but was also surprised that my partner thought we'd joke about something like that, and that she'd treat like a laughing matter. Anyway, she said she had to go because Sue was calling her back any minute. I texted her to say my sister-in-law felt bad and that she wouldn't joke about that, and that it was good to see her, but it was back to business as usual and saying to let her know when she could pick up her stuff this week. Why was she going to ask me for coffee? Why did she show at my nephew's game and then text the OP the entire time. Then today I get an e-card notification on the old joint account--guess the block sender thing doesn't work, and couldn't help but look. My partner sent the OP an e-card saying that she couldn't work today--"I hate Mondays, especially ones that come after a great weekend--thanks for Saturday. XOXO"
Arrrgggghhh. I guess I read too much into everything.