I was sad about the loss of time with my W as a friend. It wasn't the loss of love, the loss of intimacy, the loss of my W or M that struck me. Rather it was thinking about the fact that we used to do so much together, spend som much time together, as friends/(life) partners, just doing everyday stuff. Like on the weekends. We were a team. We truly had a life together, in every sense, even if it was flawed and far from perfect. We have tackled so much together, done so much together, faced so much together for about 13.5 years, and I realized I missed that, and that it is very sad.
(((Nomo))) I know how you feel. That was a good description of the sadness I feel about my R w/H- far from perfect, but we were always a team. Hang in there. I get a sense that it is not over b/w the 2 of you. You are doing a great job of giving her the space and time that she wants and she may just realize that she's missing all of the things that you're missing. More hugs...
