impossible wife?

[mkultra]

I feel your frustration about what the WAS and the harm of the denial. My H actually said that he did not see how his affair had any effect on his children. He said that to me, a daughter of an adulterer! he knows from my first hand account from childhood how damaging it was for me to grow up with a man I did not respect and how I had to know there was an elephant in the room even as a teen.

Ugh, but alas we must use mental jujitsu if not for ourselves but for the weak threads of our own marriage. It is just more win win win if we do as Homer says. I have used that technique accept when it comes to the KIDS! I can never agree that what he has done does not effect my KIDS!!!