Ya see new_att that whenever I have tried in the past to set up a schedule he comes back with, "I can't do that. My job requires that I work early mornings and late evenings" What he also points out is that because he is a personal trainer, 'normal' peoples leisure time is his work time so he is just not available for long periods of time. Add onto that that he will be as flexible as possible for his clients (because he is starting out in the industry and needs to build up his client base - he says) but when it comes to dd (or me, back when I was trying my ar5e off) it's "sorry I have to work".
So as much as I have tried to set up regular times, it seems to be a phobia for him to plan anything that has structure in it.
I am quite looking forward to mediation where I hope they can get some stuff down on paper so I know what to expect.
Maybe I should accept his overtures of friendliness instead of being hyper-anxious/suspicious/paranoid. It'll just be hard if he 'tries it on' as I'll be tempted to spit the dummy.
Does it sound like cake eating on his part or do you think he might actually regret ending things? maybe I should ask him this?
