Jeanette - my therapist said that he thinks the OW thrives on the drama. She is definitely slightly unhinged. Lives in a small town, and quarrels with everyone. Everything with her is HIGH DRAMA. I think she is one of those that likes quarreling and making up, screaming and sobbing. She made a wonderful scene in public the summer before last with several hundred people present, over some imagined slight froma friend of mine. Ended up looking like a complete fool. People in the town are SORRY for my h for having got involved with her. I suspect she periodically threatens suicide.
My h used to loathe people like that and now he seems to feed of it!! Maybe he takes lessons.
