My Wife wants out..still!!

[dadtotwo]

My W appears to want to set a new record for the quickest D in New York history. She is ready to end our M because she is convinced that I "cannot change". According to her, there was too much deception on my part. She also says that she "lost her partner" and there is no hope for us. She says that she has continues to think about it, cry about it and just can't see that there is any hope. Her feeling is that there will always be these issues with us and she will always be wondering when something doesn't seem right. I asked if she really thinks about us and she said that we have been together for 15 years and have 2 children which is why she "does" think about it. She tells me how much it hurts her when I drop off our children and we have to say "goodbye". Where is her compassion?

I am not willing to have a decision that will effect four lives be made without some counseling first. If she will not agree to counseling then I am left with no alternative but to tell her to have me served with D papers. If I am to be a weekend Dad, I will make every attempt to try everything first. Years from now, if we do get a D, I want to look my children in the eye and say that I tried everything to keep our family together. Why is she so unwilling to tr