More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Thanks lwb, the party Saturday night was a much needed break and I had a great time. The food wasn't the best and the music was a bit annoying - definitely out of touch with what's "hip" these days - I thought I was dressed pretty well but apparently tee shirts and half-tucked in dress shirts are the cool thing these days!!) I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm just not hip, but my kids think I'm cool (sure they do... )

But it was good to get out with friends and just have a fun time. Wife spent the night playing the game but OM was not involved. Actually felt bad for her that she chose the game over going out (and over me ) but these are the decisions that she makes.

I received another email from OM last night telling me that he has been focusing on his kid and getting a life of his own (I sent him a text message on 9/22 letting him know about this site - I figured it couldn't hurt!)

He hasn't had THE discussion with my W yet but insists it's coming. He has no interest in talking to her on the phone so I guess he'll end it the same way it started - in game.

Apparently my wife's 2 year plan wasn't discussed between them until just before she dropped the bomb on me in early September. That's not to say it wasn't in the works before they had "the spark" but at least I know THEY hadn't discussed it back when things seemed to be going really well with us.

I know I shouldn't obsess over this since there's nothing I can do about what has already happened.

I've been thinking about our anniversaries which are all coming up in November - 6th will be 14 years married, 7th will be 20 years since we met, 21st will be 20 years since first kiss.

Not stressing about these but curious how they will go. I don't expect ANYthing to even be mentioned on the 6th although I know it will be on her mind all day. As for the other 2 dates, I am certain she doesn't even realize what they are. If things were fine between us, I'd make a big deal out of them - 20 years just seems too incredible to let them slip by without attaching some significance to them.

I will gladly ignore these 20 year marks if it gives me a chance at being able to celebrate the 21 year marks next year!