Thank you very much for responding, We went to a MC for several months both together and seperate. We would go her first, then me, then together. We followed that pattern for several months. I really tried to take everything to heart and do EVERYTHING to try and keep things together. My wife on the other hand really did not think that someone else could solve our problems and really had a very negatove attitude about going, even though she was the one that suggested it in the first place. On the last visit, it was supposed to have been both of us but I was asked to come alone. Well it was about two weeks before I could get an appointment, talk about stress, those two weeks passed SO SLOW, I was more nerveous that I think I have ever been. When I got there alone, the C basically spent the whole hour talking about my wife, and the fact that she does not want to work on herself, or the relationship and that my made it clear to her in her last session that she would like a trial seperation. First it really pissed my off, here I'm thinking, I have spent hundreds of dollars trying to hold my family together and I'm now being advised to seperate. She asplained that I could not do it alone, so I went along with her and went home and talked to my wife about it, she really did not even acknowledge that she had sent that message, and did not want to talk about it. All she says she can offer me is a loveless life where we co-exist in the same house to keep our family together. On one hand, friends who have seen first hand how she treats me they keep telling me that they don't know how I put up with it, that almost makes me feel like a fool for staying. Then on the other hand, if she is depressed, then that is an illness, I would not walk out on her if she were sick from anything else, plus the fact that I still love her very deeply. I'm so confused.
