Now I've done it...again #5

[mkultra]

You mentioned thinking about the way it will be if he does come back again. How do you see that happening in an ideal situation? Maybe if you can visualize it, you can establish some small goals to help you move towards that reconcilation. Perhaps you go to the marriage retreat. Perhaps you begin again. Perhaps you quietly act as if. I have read that a lot in Piecing. That the WAs just kind of comes back meekishly and hopes everything is back to normal like it was all a dream or a mistake gone wrong. This is exactly how my Mom DBed with her partner. No questions asked. The door was opened. They dated and travelled and slowly her partner came back solidly a few days per week while they both kept their own places. But they act as if there was no separation. her partner did meet two smallish goals. To quit smoking and to spend more time with the grandchildren. Those were my Mom's only stipulations and were easily met. Maybe that is how you can visualize your H's return. My mom and her Partner just ignore the fact that they both dated others during their separation.