I hope you have managed to get rid of your headache.

He seems to be trying to fill some sort of void - maybe try dialogue about that if you don't want to get specific about this woman. could talk about this being a vulnerable time etc and worrying that one could easily get attracted elsewhere.

About the bikes... It's good to have things to look forward to and dream about. I hear you loud and clear about the finances and prioritising but perhaps you could say to your H that you need a long term plan so he feels that in the grand scheme of things you will both be working towards the goal of getting the bikes. I enjoy talking to my H about plans for the future...in some ways it's more exciting in the looking forward stage than it is in the 'having' stage.We also talk about when the kids leave home and retirement etc...it makes me feel there is a future together. When he was having his A we had stopped talking about things like that. We seemed to stop all meaningful dialogue.

Someone once said to me that happiness is not having what you want but wanting what you have. I know that's not happpiness in it's entirity but not wanting what you have is quite hard. Mind you can still want what you have and more......LOL

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength