reflection, after reviewing post... maybe a starting point, will be to hyper-validate her opinions.
she claims I "dont listen to her" and "ignore her", even when I change my plans from what I wanted, to attempt to accomodate her wishes. Yet she still gets mad at me, for not remaking my plans to be EXACTLY what she counter-proposed... arg...
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle