impossible wife?

[Dom R]

I have just been reminded tonight, of what a lousy relationship I am trying to get myself back into.

These types of behaviours resurfaced over an argument we are having about how to handle the children on an issue:

• She complains and accuses me that "it always has to be [my] way"... but rants that I'm not doing "whats best for the children", whenever I dont do exactly what she wants for the children
• She accuses me of "always needing to be right"... yet I frequently admit whenver I'm wrong... at that the same time, she just about never admits when SHE is wrong.
  I broached the possibility of this to her for the first time, that she is unwilling to ever admit she is ever wrong. Asked if she was willing to even consider the possibility that she might have done something wrong in this area.
  her: "Well, I didnt do anything wrong"
  me: "are you willing to even consider the possibility that you might have done SOMETHING wrong?"
  her: "I didnt do anything wrong!"
• whenever the possibility of her admitting she has done something wrong seems inevitable.. she instead chooses some detail about something, and focuses all her energy on being angry at me about it, so that I'm "in the wrong", rather than her ever admitting she has done something wrong.
• I "dont listen to her". But when she gets worked up about something, she states her opinions, then flies into a fit when I dont do things exactly the way she has planned out, and doesnt listen to my side, when she has said what she has to say.
  "I dont want to discuss this any more. click".
• If i make a mistake in some area, and I honestly apologise.. repeatedly even... she never forgives. She eventually "forgets" about it.. but just about never directly acknowleges an apology by forgiveness.

Apparently, we can get along Just Fine... (we have been getting along fairly well for the last few weeks).. just so long as I do everything she says, and let her do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. Oh, and give her more money whenever she wants more, rather than her just spending less.
[for "child support". except she's spent thousands on other things, and then complains she doesnt have any money.]

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGG!!!!


Okay, this was a major "rant" level post, which doesnt usually deserve a response.

But in all seriousness... how I am supposed to deal with a woman, who really, literally, without exaggeration has the trait of, "she's never wrong" ?
And then flies into a fit of anger, and resentfulness, for a MONTH, any time I push back with my opinion?
How am I supposed to work out any kind of reconciliation with a person like this, when there's always going to be issues around our children that we will argue over?