just got home from being out of town all weekend with the kids. wife was frustrated because I didnt communcate very well what time we were coming home. so, she was in a grouchy mood. I also noticed she took down a picture of her and I in our bathroom while I was gone. I asked her if she threw it away and she did not.
So, we started talking and she said she was really frustrated that we werent moving forward. I said I was all about moving forward and not backwards. I told her I thought we had two great days together last week. She said, why...'because we got along?' I said thats a big component of moving forward. She doesnt really agree. I asked why we couldnt really work on any of our other issues? She said theres no movement because she is not in love with me, how could she possibly work on it. then, we got into a discussion on our schedules. She wants the kids by herself next weekend. I told her I was out of town this weekend and will be the following, but not this upcoming weekend. She said I could spend the weekend looking for a place to live. Thus...here came my bomb. She wants more space. I said I have given you tons of space and I offered to live in the spare bedroom and completely leave her alone. She said she absolutely had to live apart and this meant living under different roofs and it was frustrating to her that we werent going along with the plan I agreed to. I said fine. I have changed my mind. I havent talked to one person that agreed with my original decision and now if she needs more space, she's going to have to go get it. She really wanted to know what I was afraid of in leaving? I told her. She said then she's moving and taking the kids. I said fine, it's still 50/50. she agreed to that. Then she got into a dissertation about how I cared nothing about this house. yada yada yada. So...i knew it was going to be a fight and I'm sure theres more coming...I love this game and my new life.
I also think my kids have it figured out who the WAS is. they are perfect behavior with me yet really challenge my wife. tempers with my wife. I think its driving her nuts.
