I think this comes under the heading of realizing that you can't make people do things so if they get resistant and pissy about it, it's best to drop the leash... AND when you do that, you realize that it wasn't all that important that they do what you wanted anyway.
(This applies in normal relations between people of good will who generally treat each other with civility. It is NOT an excuse for someone to abuse someone else or a reason to put up with abuse from someone. What is "abuse"? That is a good question.)
