you do deserve better. No doubt. But your W is lost right now. She may or may not find her way back to you. And I know it hurts but her affair has nothing to do with you. So give yourself some time to absorb this bomb. Around here it's called the 48 hr. rule. Just live with it for a bit to see how you feel. I do agree that an A usually adds a tough dimension to db'ing. But many, many couples survive affairs and come out stronger in the end.
Me (36) H (42) M (12) S-8 D-5 SS-18 D Day (PA) 12/02 S 10/03 R 1/03 S again 9/07 I choose Joy.
