this sex issue is huge with me. My H and I have been seperated since April. Lots and lots of sex in the first couple months. Then none for a awile. Our A was AUG9 I spent the night with him. Lately we have been having sex 1-2 times a week. I initiate. He is willing. And it is good.
Problem is, I initiate. He doesnt'. I almost beg for the act to happen. He doesn't hesitate for me to come to his house, but if I didn't push the sex thing I actually think that more times than not he would go to sleep and nothing would happen. It's getting harder and harder for me.
I "need" to be wanted. I "need" to be desired. I "need" someone to seduce me. I don't think I can "do" this anymore. Friday night I was there and after 1 time he slept and I left.(been staying most of the night). I have told myself to stop. If he wants you let him ask. But it is hard for me to put up this boundary as I don't want to let go of this connection with H.
We'll see how it goes...
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
