I know the whole sex thing is confusing...but you know - sometimes you just need that release. So if it happens remember YOU and how good it was and don't worry about whether your H is cakewalking. Because if it's truly for you it's not about him. Make it a selfish thing.
And if you are up for it...you are perfectly in the right to start playing some cat and mouse games with your H. If you can stomach being flirty and coy with texting him some sexy stuff then by all means do so. At minimum you're going to be giving OW a taste of that tightening in the stomach you've had to endure for the last 7 months...
Me (36) H (42) M (12) S-8 D-5 SS-18 D Day (PA) 12/02 S 10/03 R 1/03 S again 9/07 I choose Joy.