Mkultra, thanks for your insight. It was dumb to smash the windshield, but it was done after I had left her house the first time. You are right, I have said that I may date others. Now, it is looking more probable. I refuse to share my wife with anyone. How many times does one have to beat a dog before it gets the hint not to come around anymore? If her seeing another man does not mean the marriage is over, pray tell what would? To me that is the most base of all betrayals. I am starting to think that W feels guilty about potential D and is being nice b/c of that. Not b/c she is unsure. I was born at night, but not last night. I may as well face facts as they are staring me right in the face. Perhaps W wants me to pull the trigger on the D filing and thus absolve her of all guilt. She may get her wish as I have reached the limits of my patience. I deserve better....