Why would you do that, say all bets are off? If there is another man it does not mean the marriage is over. You said yourself that you may date other people. I think dating other people for you would definitely show her you are more than friend material. I should speak because I do not have the nerve to date but I know that it does bust divorces big time. She would come running the moment she hears another person is at dinner with you and laughing at jokes that she should be laughing at!!!
Never ever strike anything in anger. That could be seen as violent aggression in court. Don't snoop or go over there if you think she has another man there even as friends. See her when it is more private. You do not want to share her. rememberyou are both beginners again.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."