Personally I think the sex connection is a good one to keep open - as it were - if you can. Especially if it is better you think between you and your H than her and your H. I don't think it hurts to remind H once in a while what he will be losing.

In my sitch the sex side of things was pretty bad for H and OW and that definitely was a plus.

saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength