[hiscott]

Thanks mk and lwb.
I like the dog analogy. Maybe I'll draw a picture of a dog on the back of my hand and look at it right before talking to her. It's hard for me to see things from her perspective. Honestly, she doesnt give me concrete reasons for wanting this separation. That might result in a conflict and she is a HUGE conflict avoider. But, can understand how it would turn her off to come to me with a compliment and I turn it around into guilt. hmmmmmm. I need to remember this moment. It's big.

Thanks again.