Separated and W has a BF.

[Yoyowife]

Jarhead,
This will be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life, but you must work on detaching. Do not contact her unless absolutley necessary. Do not ask her any questions unless it has to do with finances or children.

Read everything you can get your hands on, it helped me tremendously helping me understand what is going on and giving me ideas of what to do.

LWB is right, all you can do right now is be her friend. Think of her as a casual friend that you would lend support to if they need it.

I'm sorry Jarhead, I know how bad it hurts. Once I truly detached from H and gave him space things started going so much smoother. Believe me, this did not happen overnight.