FLTC, I am thinking about future holidays and possibly different ways of doing things....why not ask your children to tell you about their favorite traditions? They may have favorite rituals that you are not even aware of. A very simple example is last year my niece and nephew asked SIL why she didn't cook cream of wheat for Christmas morning. (She made a fancy breakfast with a breakfast casserole and lots of extras). SIL said she fixed cream of wheat because it was easy and warm, but never thought her kids cared.
Build on the strengths of the family, but think outside the box. What could a future celebration be like that might be just with you and the children? What are some of YOUR fond memories.....again, focus on the children, not your wife.
