He's on Match.com

[saffie]

If he is going to come back a'house' is not going to be the important factor YOU are. Maybe you would be better to move and start living as though he wasn't going to be a big feature in you life - that might shake him up. I know houses are homes and our emotions are wrapped up in them but they are not LIVES. If you move maybe you will start to move on - often it seems to be when that happens, (and I mean actually really do move on rather than say they are), that the S wants to come back.

Anticipating the future is scary but you can control your move this way - what will happen if you don't move and he doesn't come back ? will you end up being pushed rather than choosing when to jump? Will you only get to say "how high ?"

I know this is very hard and serious - I really feel for you.

Saffie