He did not communicate enough. He tried to "do" things to help me out, to make things easier around the house, etc. in the hopes that I would then use the supposed extra time I then had to focus solely on him. Well, not a mind reader here -- I needed him to talk to me. I'm positive that we will always talk about things now -- or at least I hope he now realizes how important that is.
We thought all women were "programmed" to be mind readers
This sounds just like our situation. Like your husband, I was doing the stuff around the house when what I should have done is communicate more (And THEN do all the stuff around the house right ?? )
I think women are "programmed" to believe that all men want is sex. We honestly don't get that it's way more than that to you guys!
See, you women need to work on that "pre-programmed mind reading" Leave the lack of communication to us
As an aside, during the whole D sitch, I got first hand knowledge of the "rejection" feeling --- I would try to initiate and would hear such things as "I don't want THAT from you." I can honestly say I understand now -- and, yes, it does suck.
Yes it sucks !! Now multiply that over and over and then you get the feeling of finally giving up pursuit. I've said it before somewhere, for awhile I gave up pursuing her because it was easier to deal with the pain of feeling alone instead of dealing with the pain of feeling alone AND the pain of rejection.
