Continuing my convo w/ Confused, I'm glad she finally "got it" as did I. I believe my H did try to communicate a little bit of what he was feeling, but not really. That was his huge "short fall" in our breakdown. He did not communicate enough. He tried to "do" things to help me out, to make things easier around the house, etc. in the hopes that I would then use the supposed extra time I then had to focus solely on him. Well, not a mind reader here -- I needed him to talk to me. I'm positive that we will always talk about things now -- or at least I hope he now realizes how important that is.

I think women are "programmed" to believe that all men want is sex. We honestly don't get that it's way more than that to you guys!

As an aside, during the whole D sitch, I got first hand knowledge of the "rejection" feeling --- I would try to initiate and would hear such things as "I don't want THAT from you." I can honestly say I understand now -- and, yes, it does suck.

Last edited by RedHeadWife; 10/21/07 05:10 PM.
Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10