[mkultra]

You cannot beat yourself up for that comment but it is like punishment. Think about it. She makes a positive comment and you immediatley punish her. Think about them like dogs who have run away. the more you chase them the harder they run. If they do get tired or hungry and come home you beat them for running away? They will remember that the next time they run away. Instead when they come back reward them with food and warmth and affection whatever. Don't chase them away. That is a huge turn off for a chick in any context. Even a single girl who just met a guy or someone in happy R. No woman wants to be with a dude who is guilting her. She is obviously attracted to the part of you that is a great dad, independent providr, supportive of her happiness. keep that up. Do not criticize her. Agree with her.