Thanks lwb. I do understand that detaching and GAL is what I need to do and most of the time I can stay on course. Unfortunately, I seem to be the weakest when I am with her or talking to her. I seem to be drawn to the pursuit like a magnet. It's so stupid. In the moment though, I think that I ought to be able to reason her in to returning. It never works. Why cant I ever learn?
Yes she is scared to commit. She is having her cake and eating it to. She is clearly happy with the current situation and sometimes I wonder if she will ever commit to resolving this in either direction. The only thing that I can do is wait patiently or file for D (and I don’t want to do that).
I want to continue to remain patient, continue my own personal growth, and hope that she can see the man that I am becoming.
Me-46;W-42 Together 23 yrs Married 16 S11 S8 S6 02/10/03 Her 1st affair 10/01/06 Sep Bomb 01/01/07 Sep Begins 03/09/07 Her 2nd affair