If I may paraphrase your message, you seem to be saying that, until I act as if there is virtually no chance for reconciliation, then I'm not likely to start making the necessary improvements in my life. Otherwise, I'll fail to help myself because my refusal to give up my XW keeps me stuck in the same thought patterns that have failed me to this point.
Exactly. Very well put. I wish I had been so clear and succinct.
Can you do what you wrote? I know it's hard....getting started is the most difficult part. If you start doing things on your own or with friends, it gets easier.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
