go to him, look in his eyes and with your heart open say that. You might end up helping him more than you know.
I hope that you are right. I too said this to my H last Monday night. I also said that I wouldn't really love him if I didn't want what was best for him. For him to be happy. And that I am worried that he is losing himself. That all this lieing, sneaking around, cheating, is so not him at all. That if she makes him happy, then go be with her. (He still denies Her)
H didn't say too much, just looked off and almost looked as though he could cry. He never cries. Don't know if he "heard" me but glad I said it.
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M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Hmm, TOH, should I try this or should I stay dark?
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
H*ll if I know! I don't have a clue as to what works and what doesn't. What we should do. I just know of some of the things that don't work or that we shouldn't do.
I only said these things to my H because I needed to. They were honest statements that came from my heart.
And part of me wonders if I can just talk to H about OW. He wont have to "admit" to her. That getting her out in the open will end the excitement, the secrets, maybe even the R.
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M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Hi all, wasn't going to post, only because I have nothing new to share. But wanted to thank everyone for their support.
Neph, I know what you mean about wanting to say "Yeah, a$$, it does look like I have my hands full...". But no, we smile and move on.
Jar, Yes, I am the selfish one too, by the way. How dare we take care of our kids and the house? The nerve!
Trying, We have had intimacy on and off since physical contact ended with OW. I am doubting anytime soon though. I was really hurt by the bomb of the continuing emotional ties with OW and H this week. When this first happened, we used to go on dates all the time, but haven't lately. One weekend, H was really angry and didn't want to go out, and I told him I would wait for him to ask me, and I haven't pursued.
theotherhalf, lmfao at "H#ll if I know!?" So true!! Hope you are doing well.
Journaling: Nothing exciting here. Got through the weekend and had a great time. D3 is already improving on steroids so I am thrilled. I am working and will meet my girls (SIL has them) at a party tonight. Don't really know or care if H is joining us. If he does or doesn't really doesn't affect my plans.
I doubt Sunday night on the patio will happen tonight. He has to work at 3am. We usually stay up til 1am or so.
Oh and he didn't sleep at his dad's this weekend at all. DON'T get too excited, I am assuming it was for convenience only since he had to work all weekend.
Plus, if something major is going on, my life is not mine.