[LL44]

I feel silly giving you advice, you probably could give ME better advice, but wanted to say hi.

I have reconnected with some male friends that I had lost contact with, started working out more, and generally trying to shift my focus from trying to get her back to enjoying life without her.

This is what was working and will work. It will work in 2 ways: 1) Draw your wife closer and 2) Make you a stronger person, therefore will be fine either way, with or w/o wife, although we all want the 'with'.

We all know how pursuing makes us look, but I also am guilty of doing it. Little slips (that is what you have had, nothing horrible) are normal and we can recover from them. It sounds like she is scared to 'commit' to officially working things out, that's ok for now. I think things will look up for you guys, with detaching and some more patience.

I applaud you both for keeping your boys at home. Amazing.

PS: If she sees you as a 'loser', she is sooooo wrong.