Happy Together at Long Last!!!

[RedHeadWife]

red heads rock

Well, and in our sitch's, being the woman, we also know that our husbands are not going to sit there and talk to us about how they are feeling or allow themselves to dwell -- I think most guys want to just get on w/ it and get over it. That's the difference between men & women.

One thing that I hate is that just simple, every day things that happen can remind me of a certain thing H said or did or a certain sitch inside the sitch & it all comes crashing back.

The thing that I am working actively on (and I don't know if you also know that my H is deployed so I'm kind of doing this one-sided), but I get Gary Chapman's emails every day. Each week, he talks about a different topic.

One week, it really hit me hard and, as much as it sucks at times, I am constantly trying to actively keep this in mind: (1) unfortunately marriages don't just toodle along all happy, happy for the most part. They do take work, constant work -- I guess as far as my sitch and probably most other's, we didn't realize this or we didn't put in the work it took and that's how we got to where we were. We need to remind ourselves daily that our marriage is truly the most important thing in our lives (at least that's my opinion). Our spouse is our one constant. We need to always be feeding & taking care of our marriage or it will die.

(2) Truly (and I won't get into religion here), but we as wives are supposed to really be the ones that take care of our husbands and children. Yeah, is it fair, necessarily? Sometimes I think not, but this is what our "role" is. And here's the catch: if we continually take care of our husbands the way we should be, we can *hope* that not only will the feelings, taking care of, etc. be reciprocated, but we won't have a breakdown in our marriage. It will become second nature and maybe one day won't always seem so much like "work," you know?