You are in shock. No need to make any decisions right now. If the tears haven't come, they will. Let them.
After I found out about H's PA, I couldn't even drink from the same soda as him. I hated washing his clothes, I couldn't even look at his hands, thinking where they had been. This is changing SLOWLY and it will for you too.
Your husband could have gone about his life and never said a word about what he did. You may have never found out about it. He was brave and came to you. Like you said, at the least, it relieves you of the guilt of being the 'cause' of the sexual issues, but he did do something very wrong.
Its hard to accept, but RHW is right, our marriages will never, EVER be the same, we won't be the same either. Trust will never be completely back, how can it be, after being so hurt and betrayed. BUT...things can be different, even better.
You need to wait this one out. Get away if you need to, but keep H informed if you leave, that way no one will panic if you are gone.
