Ok, wow. Your wife. How do you do it? Can you ship me some calm and patience? Wait, keep it, you need it.
It must be textbook WAS syndrome, because my H at first feared I would pack the kids up, sell the house, keep the money and the kids and never be seen again. I also told him that would benefit no one, and be horrible for the kids, so I would never do it. No matter how much *I* want to run away at times, I'm a staying for the kids. The cold and hateful thing? Where does she get that? What does she want?
Unfortunately you have no other choice but to continue the calm and cool path. Its so hard.
I think they do have an anti DB book somewhere.....
I wonder the motive to tell SIL all of that? Laying the groundwork, to make it look like "This is what I have to deal with every day. No wonder I am stressed and trying to get out. NoCode is crazy!". OhioMark might have to chime in on this one, he gets that too at times.
