Ok question, should I make a final statement before we go through this? I'm thinking something along the lines of:

"You know this isn't what I want to do, but I understand how you are feeling and that you need to do what is best for you. I'm viewing this as us taking some time to heal so we can come back to the table and work on our M, and I'm going to use this time to work through my issues and continue to grow and improve. I'm not going to give up, because you are worth fighting for and I see so many positive things in our marriage that I would hate to lose. I hope that as we go through this you will keep an open mind and heart, and in time be willing to consider MC so that we can assess our M and what it would take to make something that works for the both of us."

Bad idea, good idea? I don't know.

One other reason I think the S is good is that I think it will take the pressure off her. I mean, once we had agreed on this she went from seething with anger to suddenly talking with some hope, like that MC would be a possibility in the future, that we could date (for the past few months she's barely shown any interest in doing anything with me). I do feel that this situation will allow her to be more relaxed and less stressed in my presence and that will make it easier for her to open up and able to take a more honest look at my changes. Of course on the flip side it could just make her forget about me. Who knows...

I guess I can also hope that we have such an amazing time in Key West that she changes her mind, but that seems unlikely. That's the hard part, I have to look at her and see how much she loves me and cares and wants to be close, but knowing that she won't let herself because she doesn't want to be hurt and lonely anymore. All I can do is show her that I can be the person she needs. We'll have a good time in KW, I need to show her my love and support but at the same time be more independent. Another complain she has had is that in social situations I tend to hover around her and I'm not outgoing and social. Been fixing that one too, so on this trip I need to make sure she sees me out there willing to talk with people and not just hang by her.