Quick update... neighbor called and said that they need two more people for their (couples) card game, asking if "we" wanted to play. I immediately got on the phone with a friend who agreed to go with me. So I'm going out without her tonite.
I have no idea when wife will be home. If it's tonight, I won't be here when she arrives...
Here I am .... GALing....So I won't be posting anything here tonight. Maybe I will post an update after I return...
Oh, and because of the nature of the beverages served at these functions, I hereby hold myself completely harmless from any words or actions posted on this board (or emailed to others) after 11:00 PM tonight that may be considered inappropriate, offensive, or objectionable. This clause expires at 6:00 AM Saturday morning... This includes if I decide to jump naked off Sara's roof into her pool.
Thanks morgan. I heeded your advice, and indeed had a great time. Because it wasn't "my crowd" (but one that I have been in in the past), I saw lots of people that I am acquainted with, but do not know well. Felt good about extending reach of friends, and even better about the fact that I went with three neighbors (married couple + one guy). Got home around 2:00 AM. And I got up for football practice at 7:30 AM. Yeah, ouch... that's a good word, especially given the volume of "cheer" that I consumed.
More alien spew from the wife....
Abridged version of the story of what happened later in the day: I sold something on ebay & buyer wanted to meet for a cash transaction. Fine with me. When I got home from the exchange, wife immediately put out her hand and asked for half, saying she's entitled. I shook my head, gave her all of the cash, and told her it's not worth it. "Wow. If money means that much to you, just take it all." I walked away. BTW, this was not the reaction she expected. Not even close.
She pursued me, and confronted me about finances, implying that I may be hiding money from her. I told her that all of my accounts (and our accounts) are completely transparent to her. I have no secrets (which is the truth). She then accused me of sending text messages to somebody at 6:00 AM. What?? I told her there was no secret lover in my life, resisting all obvious temptations to embellish the denial with nonproductive, yet delicious jabs. Not sure she believed me. Can't do much about the alien-possessed brain. She is nevertheless convinced that I am cheating on her. Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's the cause of our marital problems. She's a genius...
She insisted that I take my half of the money (guilt). I told her to leave it on the bed. She did.
Two things: First, she was trying to bait me into a fight. I didn't bite. Quite the contrary, I had a slight smile on my face as I kept telling myself that is he mentally ill and does not know what she wants. Also, I believe that she "feathering her nest" for the divorce. She is gathering info for the division of assets. Which I am really OK with. I mean, if she's going to file, there is nothing I can do to stop her. And if she really wants to bring all that pain to our family, well, she can go ahead. My patience is growing thin. I am prepared to let her have what she says she really wants.
Please write something inappropriate to me during those hours. And be aware that I do have a pool enclosure. So if you jump off the roof, you will have to either break through the screening or bounce off of it, whichever the case may be. But I am willing to stand outside and watch and see which one happens.
Mark, you blew her away with giving her the money. She just got home from being out of town, so you know she was 'ready' to fight. Wants 'reasons' to leave you, reasons to say "See what a jerk he is, everyone?". You totally did all the right things!!! She is spewing that's for sure, but I think she is also measuring you up, for what fight she might have with you, regarding money or even the kids. I love that you held your tongue while she accused you of having an affair. Sorry about that text Joking!
You have your plan, you are ready. What she isn't ready for is your plans! Way to go.
You did awesome. Let her allow herself to believe what she wants - she probably really doesn't think you are cheating, she probably just wants to add more drama.
I think you are really on a good track if you can continue to stay calm w/ her and react "as if" you could care less that she's acting like a dumba$$.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I agree, she is ready for a fight, ready to prove all the lies she has told herself and such. good for you, mark. I need to take "not taking the bait" lessons from you.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Joking!