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...I do believe there is hope for reconciliation after divorce. I've been divorced and reconciled...

Just_Me, you are right. I didn't understand you. I'm so sensitive to being told "put this behind you" and "she's not worth it" by well-meaning friends & family, that I assumed that you were giving me the same advice. The fact that you are one of the success stories now has my full attention.

If I may paraphrase your message, you seem to be saying that, until I act as if there is virtually no chance for reconciliation, then I'm not likely to start making the necessary improvements in my life. Otherwise, I'll fail to help myself because my refusal to give up my XW keeps me stuck in the same thought patterns that have failed me to this point.

Is that close to what you have been trying to tell me? (I'm kind of dense sometimes.)

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...you are a divorced man that can't face the fact that he's divorced and that it's okay to be happy with your single life.

You're right about me here. Except that it's not that I can't accept that it's okay to be happy and single; it's just that at this point, I'm not happy being single.

Just_Me, I'm trying to get it. Don't give up on me; I need your expert advice & guidance. Thanks!


A successful man earns more than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who marries such a man.Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.