Now I've done it.... again #4?

[SallyM]

I wish I knew the answer, neph. my h has been spending blindly, too. its driving me crazy, because I have always done the accts and such. and yeah, i guess I've become a bit of a control freak about it. but when I first got together with him, I realized pretty quickly that his style of personal accounting was if the atm said he had money in the acct, well, he could go ahead and take it. scary to me. I think we really need to sit down and figure out bills and such. I still do most of them, but he does his new car payment and cell phone and now a credit card he opened for work stuff only (he gets reimbursed, instead of like his old job that had a company card). he just needs to tell me the amounts, and trust me, I will be watching how much he pays on the cc and how much he gets from the new company.

I'll tell you, too, its been my habit to pull our credit histories yearly. he knows I do this, and i have continued to and have online monitoring on his. so honestly, there isn't much he can hide from me, which is good, because I don't trust him with money. doesn't matter how much he makes...he makes a good chunk of change right now. he has yet to make an amount that he won't meet or exceed if given the chance.

so no advice, just sympathy.

btw, do you think giving him the password and bill info would help? not sure my h would even pay attention, to tell you the truth. we monitor it (you and I) because it is our nature to. can't expect the same from H's who are not like that.

it might not be bad to sit down and go over the budget if you are concerned about making ends meet.