Now I've done it.... again #4?

[nephartiti]

Ok, I need some feedback on something.

You all know how much anxiety I have had re: H and money.

H is currently spending. He knows there are bills, but none of the details. Now he has supposedly gotten a new apartment, a new credit card, a new cell phone. He has to be able to budget his money. I am a but of a control freak and have been managing all the bills and accounts. He has been spending blindly.

I was thinking of (gasp) giving him the password to the online banking so that he can monitor. Plus a list of the bills that are still paid out of that account so that he can budget. It seems like this should be a no brainer, but it is out of my comfort zone. I guess it needs to be done. He needs to be able to do this for himself.

I guess the real question is when do I do this? I am sitting dark at the moment. H took the money out for an apt, but I don't have confirmation that he actually got one. Maybe I should just wait a little longer before jumping the gun... Or maybe it would be a good gesture regardless.

I am putting a minimum 48 hr wait on this, but I would appreciate any feedback