wow, does a lot of your situation sound familiar. substitute him for her/h for w and I could have written a good chunk of it...well, except for the i love yous. those sure haven't come my way.
I think you sound like you are on the right track. no pursuing. my friend (a th, not my th) told me long ago that if someone doesn't want to be pursued and someone else does, the only place the pursued person has to go is further away. don't do it. stay strong. it sucks, it goes against instinct (or at least against mine), but it really does seem to push them further off.
show your strength and confidence. I agree with the others women do love that. make home a safe, good place to be.
good luck!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
