I'll have to remember to ask her that next time....what the heck, let's just do it!!!


Saw therapist yesterday. She said H wanted to meet with DD and later with me. I pushed her and she finally came out and said that H saw no future, liked being alone and wanted a divorce. I broke down but then talked to another DBer who reminded me of a few things and we came up with a plan.

I don't see the need to be faced with rejection so I will not meet with H. If he wants a divorce, I will not stop him nor will I help him. H still is foggy. He still hasn't reconnected with parents, etc. and will be in for a rude awakening when DD pulls teenage stuff on him. How will he handle her anger when it comes? I think he will back off. So I am going to tell the therapist to work on H and DD reconnecting and I will not meet with him. What do you think?

Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.

bomb: Jan 25, 2006
not seen since
DD moved in with H - 9/1/08
H filed for divorce - 11/2008
Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010
still nothing