Definitely listen to Jen, she's the absolute best!

One thought comes to mind: take your focus off of your W, and put it back on YOU. How do YOU want to be? How can you make YOU happy? What changes will make YOU a better man? All of these things are independent of your W.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!