I have a question and I really need some outside thoughts on this. When I approached W about Retrouvaille a couple weeks ago, I indicated that if she would go, I would take care of any costs. She has agreed and we're going next weekend but I kind of feel like it would be more appropriate to use our joint account to pay for it since it's for the both of us. Question is, do I ask her about that while stating that I'm still willing to pay on my own since that's what I agreed to? Or do I just leave it and eat the cost to avoid rocking the boat?
I'm conflicted because I want her to feel some "ownership" of the coming weekend, that she isn't a passenger, she's a participant. I think using joint $ might help. Also, I've been really passive with her over the past couple of months, not doing anything to upset the apple cart and I'm starting to feel like a bit of a doormat. But, I don't want this to be a source of contention between us prior to going. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
