He's on Match.com

[hiscott]

Absolutely. Again, I know that it's hard, but honestly, it doesnt seem like what you are doing now is bringing him closer and it's tearing you apart.

I see my wife every few days. In order to impact our three boys the least, we have a house and an apartment and she and I switch places every couple of days. The schedule is pretty fluid, so we talk logistics nearly everyday. When I do see her, it's harder for me to maintain my neutrality. I'm so attracted to her that I am tempted into pursuing behaviors. It's taken me nine months of separation to realize that that does not work. I've made it clear that I want to work to rebuild our marriage, but am not really available to her other than logistically until she wants to also work on our marriage.