Thanks Hiscott-
Luckily, I never say ILY unless he says it first.

yes, WHY should he change what he's doing? Doesn't seem to be much of a downside for him right now.

How much do you see your wife?

I know that when my H feels down or lonely or wants comfort or just wants a friend or wants to be reassured that someone loves him, I am who he runs to. I think maybe it is time that he see what it would be like to not have Agent 99 there, always so ready to forgive.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing