I have read others sitches and some S's talk to LBS about OM/OW. I think this would ease S's mind. Would bring it out in the open without them having to "confess". I don't know if this is right or not. But it's what I think and so have been bringing OW up lightly in conversations with H.

Again I don't know if it is right but it is what I am doing just a tiny bit.

M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!